August 8 is Dying to know day – whilst I work as a missing persons researcher, the ambiguity of that loss means that we talk very little about the concept of a ‘good’ death because so much remains unknown. Those conversations, the ones where peoples rights are respected, where the journey is as soft and […]

I stood at the local swimming pool last week. Scanning the bobbing faces to keep an eye on my kids. “Be careful” I yelled “stay where I can see you!” I fear making mistakes when it comes to my children, a slip in judgement could change the course of mine and their life. The thing is, […]

I was walking to pick up my son the other afternoon, a short stroll but I deliberately walked slow. Stopping and thinking and reminding myself to breathe. The last two months have been a little topsy turvy in my world. I got sick, no one could work out why and in the midst of not sleeping and […]

I push and pull against the idea of happy. Of striving for the goal where everything falls in to place, you breathe out and announce to no one in particular that you have arrived. When I met my husband back in 2007 we had every second Friday night where it was just the two of […]

Through the poverty-stricken undergrad years I worked in peoples homes helping them to care for their children who had special needs. It sat well with the ideals I was learning in my social work degree and paid me to take kids to the park, to the pool or to the movies. It taught me about […]

Back in the early days of my blog one of my most shared posts was the one where I survived divorce by pretending I was a character in the Secret Life of Us. It may not have been the most thought through coping strategy but it worked (and sadly my plan to look like Claudia […]

I bent down this morning and ran my hands over my legs. It had been a long month of not shaving them, of not wearing shoes other than a very worn pair of birkenstocks and of pulling on a random assortment of clothes. Clothes that seemed to have accumulated at the bottom of my unmade […]

There is an image of a lady floating around FaceBook at the moment. She is missing after a night out in Melbourne and people are desperately sharing her picture in the hope that it will bring her home. A few months back a friend wrote this. She spoke about the ways in which the careers […]

I had a story published at Daily Life this week. It had been a story that had been rattling around in my head for a long time. Its something that Ive been pondering when I study – its about the fact that if we are all going to experience some type of loss, at some […]