There was an article in the paper over the weekend about the new strategy aimed at early hospital discharge  for new mums – some in as little as four hours post delivery. There was a picture in the paper of a new mum holding her gorgeous little girl who spoke about going  home a few hours after her daughter was born, I guess in answer to the question that a lot of us were thinking “Why?” She explained that ‘for me, there was no better place to be than at home with baby. It was beautiful to not wake up the next day not in a strange, sterile environment but my own bed’.

Like every imaginable aspect of parenting there are a multitude of reasons why we make certain decisions but this article, and the mums response, got me thinking.

I’ve got a pigeon pair (as many people point out to me, even though I confess I don’t know what that means?). I had my daughter 5 years ago at a public hospital, using only the midwife service, it was a low risk pregnancy and everything went to plan – I even had a water birth (not by choice I simply refused to get out of the bath once they got me in). About 18 hours after I gave birth a nurse came to my room and asked me if I was ready to go home – I wasn’t – but it was my first entree into the world of difficult to answer parenting questions – you know those ones you get asked and you have no idea about how to respond. I wondered if all of the other mums had gone home,  I wondered if it was a trick question. Part of me wanted to point out that I hadn’t yet accepted the fact that the babe in the see- through cradle actually came from my body. So I waited, a whole other 12
hours and then pronounced I was ready and so off I went with a bunch of numbers, a cute going home outfit and a tiny, tiny babe.

Second time around I did it differently. Life was different so my second babe followed suit. I booked into a private hospital, I had an obstetrician, once again it was low risk and everything went to plan – I suddenly remembered mid contraction what labour actually felt like and I ordered an epidural. Five days later I emerged from the hospital with more than a bunch of numbers – I’d had three proper meals a day, I’d slept as much as I could and I’d made it through those first few days when that sense of impending doom descends upon you as you remember the feelings that come with such a huge responsibility like having a baby (or 2).

The Towards Normal Birth Directive (NSW) has a lot of recommendations and early discharge is only one of them. The key points that are reinforced are support and choice – but each mum’s interpretation of those words will differ. I like the idea about being able to choose how you manage that first week of your baby’s life but I also remember that feeling of getting home and not knowing what to do – sure you get to see a midwife when she pops in but parenting doesn’t happen during a half hour timeslot. On the outside we can all look as if we have all the support we need but sometimes you don’t realise what you are missing until you’re home….or maybe you don’t even know yet that a space has been wedged between the old and new you…I’d imagine that sometimes a few hours after birth we might struggle remembering our own names let alone how to get dressed and head home. Let’s hope mum’s feel as empowered to say ‘no I’ll stay’ rather than ‘sure let’s go’….

What do you think – if you could have gone home straight after the birth would you have taken up the offer? (and yes…the pic is one half of my pigeon pair…)

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  1. Interesting piece, and thought provoking. For my pigeon pair I had Birth Centre births and a quick exit from hospital on both occasions. For me this was fantastic, I’m a bit allergic to hospitals (put it down to overexposure) , can only sleep in my own bed and am lucky enough to have sensible support (who can cook) at home. The early discharge program support was wonderful – more like an hour a day for 5 days..
    However, I’ve not only met many people who have struggled with early discharge, feeling bewildered and alone, but many who have found the hospital stay disempowering and difficult. Noisy wards, other people’s babies and visitors and an unfamiliar environment are not onducive to rest. Controlling midwives with conflicting views can be just enough to undermine a fledgling parent.
    I agree fully about support and choice but I’m not sure that there is even a right choice for everyone every time. The early days of parenting are a steep learning curve, a confusing time and sometimes the “right” choice can only be seen in retrospect.

  2. I don’t have kids just yet… but I must say that everything about it absolutely terrifies me. This just adds to the list, haha.


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